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This is definitely gonna be a quickie...because my bed is calling me....its been a LONG day...after the LONG night last night...
And then JUST when i think things are getting settled i have to deal with Taylors father....
So lets recap here QUICKLY....
One...last night was BAD..and i dealt with a LOT..and still really am dealing with that...words were exchanged with someone tht i never thought would be....and it left a mark...and big one....but thats all that needs said about that....
Now...HIM....
UGH..so let me make this easy....i have custody of taylor...as i should....she goes every other weekend and then on a summer schedule....now here is the thing...her FATHER has not picked her up in a minimum of 2 years...nor for the two weeks that she is home has he called her....he is quick to tell me that i always want a fight...then a few weeks ago he wanted me back So after being screamed at by his gf...i told her all of this..and sent her the messages...point fingers in your own home not here
then the last time she was down there she stayed til monday because they were off school...
ok fine...i scheduled her pick up time...
well his Girlfriend didnt like the time..mind you he was at work...so he would not have been with her..i had class and she had homework and on top of the fact that she needed fed and a bath etc for school the following day...
this started a whole ordeal with me being a bad mother and so on (from the gf....)
well...now....again heard nothing for two weeks....til this morning his mother called and said that she didnt have a way to get taylor tomorrow..i said no biggie of course shes FINE at home....obviously!!!!
well now at ten oclock he texts me to say his gf will get her...and that i need to be there early cause she has to work..ok..so where is taylor going to be??? if neither of you will be home???
i try to call...well "i cannot be civil..oh and now i want to be"...NO WAIT i am civil...but i am also logical when it comes to my child and he is mad that his gf knows the TRUTH....so i am EVIL so he told me and he has no respect and all i want to do is fight...(mind you this is a show in front of her..because we have been fine while he has been telling me how much he misses me....) UGHHHHHHHHHHHH
so hes like you can text me the time and hangs up...
NO...i wont...and i informed his parents to let him know that...
i have bent over backwards...i have raised this child...i got belittled for going to school ONE night yet...its ok that hes NEVE around, never calls and never gets her...but i am the one keeping her from him???
WTF
i just know this...i am NOT the one playing both sides of the field...i am not the one with the alcohol and drug charges..i can PROVE how he NEVER calls this kid....how he has NOT at all supported her...and how everything is always twisted on me....
and i am not doing this anymore....i cannot!!!!
its NOT ok.....
this is my life....it never stops...one thing is always right into the other...
alright i am done venting...for now
You have every right to be upset. And honestly if I was in your postion I would not send her either.. He knows when he gets her and he should make it a point not to be working on his weekends. She should be spending time with him when she is away from you not be with his g/f or at someone eles house. I can kinda relate because I deal with similiar issues with my niece now of course she is not my child but I am the ones who soley care for her with no outside help. And sometimes when dealing with her father it is the biggest pain because he never pitches in but thinks I should go above and beyond to ensure she gets down to his house to visit, and wants her on holidays but doesn't buy for her. Him and his g/f went to a concert on her birthday instead of coming to celebrate the day with her and then blame me because they didn't see her. On top of that they tell people I don't allow her to come down. I feel if you can't help take care of her or if you can't some what contribute to the finiances and raising of her Why should I go out of my way to make sure you see her if they don't make and effort. In the end the only ones they are hurting are the children, But they are too self centered in their own little world to even care. I hope things get better for you!!!
ReplyDeletethanks doll. yeah..this never ends..its constant and i am always the "bad guy"..i am "taking" all the time away i can from him..NO..i am thinking of my daughter..its not reasonable to pick her up in Breezewood at 7pm and get home at 8:30 and then have to feed her, bath her, homework, math facts and bed for school...thats NOT thinking of her at all...i dont say much in the summer...and then mind you he hasnt worked in YEARS just started...so you would think that you could say ok..every other frida i need to be done by 4 or whatever..period...or get her later i dont care..thing is...he NEVER gets her hasnt in years..and my patience is wearing thin..if you are going to tell me that i take all your time etc..then fine have YOUR time..YOU pick her up..YOU bring her home..YOU be home with her..or YOU dont get her...i dont care anymore..he has broken ths order so many times..i am DONE following it..and I do and then i always try to do more...because i dont want the arugments or the bs..and NONE of its about me being selfish its about taylor...on her bday he was arrested for public drunkeness...yet NEVER called her...hmmm.....really??!!!??? WTF. i just cannot do it anymore..i cant. being nice gets you NO WHERE at all..but in more pain and i have far too much going on for this petty shit!
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